moving help, keeping way too much stuff? what to keep & what to sell?

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Ninja_prin

hey im planning on moving out of state 1500+ miles to NJ this summer or fall

anyways i just started going thru my room and i feel i am keeping way too much... however its like im 'attached' to it and cant get rid of it, im moving w/ my mom and she says i have too much stuff too but how can i decied on what to keep, trash, sell, donate etc

i have 300+ CDs she said i should sell aprx 200 of them but i cant seem to part with them

i have tons of cloths mostly band shirts and hoodies and cloths ive had for years

i collect stuff of my fave bands and dont use like it but i cant get rid of it =\

+ i have lots more stuff im 20 so have a huge collection i feel like im a kid teenager with all the garbage i have but not sure on how i can talk myslef into getting rid of it any ideas

has anyone had this problem beofre

please help i really need some

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The 1 year rule (if you haven't used it in a year you don't need it) is a good one to apply to all "stuff". I am a confirmed hoarder of "stuff". After the kids moved out I moved from a 6 bedroom house to a 2 bedroom house.

What was left after setting up 5 kids in their own apartments and houses still would have left me with 3 full size moving vans full of "stuff".

I started small but I took one item that I hadn't really used in 20 years and no one else wanted, took a picture of it and sold it on eBay for a whopping $180! OK that was the largest price I have gotten for anything but it is amazing what people will buy and what they are willing to pay. I have pictures of everything that I had and have sold. Almost as good as still having the stuff but the pictures are stored on my computer, I don't have to dust, box, hang, wash or keep track of the "stuff" anymore. Someone who really wanted it has it and any time I think I'm missing it I just go and look at the picture!

I don't know why but people who keep "stuff" often develop and emotional attachment to it. (This is the voice of experience here!) It is stuff. Think of it this way. If you give it away or sell it this gives you more room/$$ to get more stuff.

Try sorting things into 2 piles (or 2 rooms if you have a lot of stuff ;)
Things you Need
Things you Want

The things you Want pile then gets analyzed - why do you want it...what purpose does it serve..is this really a need? - If not then it goes into either a donate or sell pile/room.

When you are done you should have a much smaller amount of stuff. If you really want to get drastic you need to go through your "Need" pile again just to make sure stuff you just "want" isn't in there. (People with addictions are sneaky.)

Good Luck.

I've never been in an AP or Honors class, or any extracurriculars. Will that look bad on my HS transcript?

Thomas J.

I want to get into a good college. A college that people who want to make six figure go to. For example, NYU. I am worried that since my classes don't have much academic rigor, which is a very important determining factor in college admissions, and that I've never been in any extracurriculars, that may hurt my chances of getting into a selective college.

I am in 10th grade. I told my guidance counselor it would mean a lot to me if I was in an AP class in 11th grade. But she refused because she has reason to believe I would fail that class if I was in it because of my grades and the fact that I am not in any challenging academic courses, for example Geometry Honors in 9th grade. Impressing college admission counselors and taking more electives are only two of the prominent reasons why this can make a difference in my education.

Here are my grades. I checked them today:

English: B- (earlier it was a solid C)
Concert Band: A
Jazz Lab: A
Geometry: C (earlier it was a solid D)
Social Skills: A

In the second half of the year, I will take Wellness in place of Jazz Lab for 2nd block on B days, and practical Biology in place of Geometry for 3rd block.

Two of those classes are special ed, English and social skills. I am in special ed mostly because I did not apply myself back in elementary school. I do have autism, but my low grades back in elementary school have nothing to do with me being autistic. The teachers had low expectations for me back in elementary school. I thought I could get out of jail free, but I was wrong. The low expectations carried over to high school.

On top of that, while the regular students only have to take English for 18 weeks, I have to take it the whole year with the special ed teacher, because back in 9th grade English, I was very resistant to directions and didn't do most of the work. I would have loved to take a couple 9 week courses this year, for example, Business Administration and Desktop Publishing. I could have earned more credits in my sophomore year had I was put in English for half the year like the students in the regular courses.

The reason why I get less than phenomenal grades in English and Geometry is because until recently, I never spent any time outside the school building to study for any of the tests or quizzes. I thought I could remember all the important stuff without sacrificing my time listening to "New York, New York" by Frank Sinatra at home. That was true in elementary school, but not in high school. Before the Summer of 2011, when the teacher said my homework was to study, I considered that equivalent to no homework whatsoever. That was true in elementary school, but not high school. Additionally, when I got a test or quiz, I just smiled pretty and hoped for the best. Hard workers NEVER have an attitude like that.

A job I'd love to get is an innovative one at Facebook's new engineering office in NYC. I've been very interested in it ever since it opened a few weeks ago. I am very creative, and I have loved practically anything innovation-related since elementary school.

Up until this year as a sophomore, when I got a D or even an F on a quiz or test, I'm like "If I failed the quiz, I failed the quiz." The straight A students almost never get grades like that on their quizzes, but when they do, they get heartbroken. I never cared about my grades until now. Back in July 2011, my Uncle Drew was able to get himself a custom built 8,000 sq ft (5,000 if the basement is not included) house in Avon, NJ. It has a bar, 100" home theatre, basketball court, elevator, library, private dock, balconies on the 2nd and 3rd floors, a built in sound system on all floors, a fireplace in both the family room and master bedroom, a wall safe, and let me tell you, my family was euphoric when they first laid eyes on this house! Immediately when I evaluated the cost of the house in my mind using mathematics and comparisons of other houses in the area (looks to be about $3 mil), I immediately thought "Get a house like this considering the work I'm giving my teachers? What do I think? I'm on drugs!?" Uncle Drew claims I am just as capable as him to build a house no less than his as long as I work like he did. I WILL NOT settle for less than what I am capable of. I know my grades need to be better to have a life of that caliber.

What do you think about everything I just said? Please be as detailed as possible. The main detail I'm looking for is because I don't participate in any challenging courses and I am not in any extracurriculars, will that hurt my chances of getting into a good college? Will that give colleges like NYU bad impressions of me? I want my life to be very prosperous. I know I don't have to go to a nationally recognized college like that, but I don't want to weaken my goals.
I know everybody has to work harder to satisfy themselves. Everyone should think of your report card as reflecting what your future will be like. A person who gets only D's or close to that on his/her report card will probably be unemployed for most of his/her life, living off social assistance, or worse. A person who gets average marks like C's on his/her report card will most likely have an average job and income, and not be able to afford most luxuries like a fancy car, or boat. But a person who works hard in school and gets all A's, and B's will probably also work hard at his/her job as an adult, and will have a better than average success level and income, and probably an earlier retirement. I believe I am capable of straight As.
The teachers have low expectations for me and don't expect me to do much work since I didn't in the past, but now I have an unyielding commitment to do any work I'm assigned without exception. Uncle Drew had that commitment, so what's preventing me from having it as well?

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First of all, I applaud you greatly for trying to make a difference in your life. The decision to better yourself and go to college will affect you greatly and you will most likely benefit from it. Since you do have autism, this will affect your ability to perform well in school. But this is okay, as long as you try hard and work at it, colleges will take notice of it if they see your grades improving.
Try getting a tutor for classes, it will only help. It's good to care about your grades, this way you can set a goal for yourself and do better next time. Other than getting a tutor, study. Studying will get you through a lot, if you notice you're watching too much tv, turn it off and open up a textbook and try to make sense of it. I guarantee you will learn something out of it. That is how most college kids learn, by reading their textbook.
You sound like an intelligent person and if you apply yourself in school you will do better.
Dont pay attention to your teachers if they discredit you, do some good work and soon they will praise and expect more from you, show them that you can learn well.

So to answer your question; yes. With no extracurriculars or honors/AP classes on your schedule, it will look bad to colleges. Try getting into Key Club or doing some community volunteering and community service. You can join the school play or student govt. Get involved as much as you can because this is a huge deciding factor when college admissions look at your resume. If its blank, they will believe that you don't want to get involved.
For AP/ honor classes, colleges only want to see that you challenged yourself and participate in upper academic classes. For now, take it slow and try convincing your counselor to put you in regular classes and then maybe next year try AP English or Social Studies, I consider those much easier than math or science.
Good luck with high school, you have a way to go, as well as college.

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