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I am in the process of re-doing my house. I have a very small house but it is all I can afford, my 3 children ages 8-6-4 are all stuck in one bedroom they refuse to go to sleep. I am tired of the big arguement that comes up every night at bed time. I know it is hard right now, but they do not go to sleep sometime 'till after midnight. It is aggrevating. Any suggestions and what do I do??- fed up mom
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Our house is not small, but we have outgrown it...just not enough storage. We have four bedrooms, one of which has turned into the catch all for filing cabinet, computer, movies, christmas stuff. I have four children three boys and one girl. We have a bunk trendle bed for them...so there is the bunk bed then there is the trendle bed underneith that is pulled out. Then there is me and my husband, so I know the situation. What excuses do your children have? Are they scared? Are they playing...thirsty...bathroom.... I myself go through and get rid of all the excuses first, and set the rules second. Once the excuses are out of the way. Start bed time earlier if you have to. First the water, then bathroom time, then we spray the room with some glade (for the monsters to stay away of course), hugs and kisses... then tuck them into bed. I send them to bed an hour or two before me so that I know they are asleep when I am ready for bed. In doing this I set the routine and it is something that I can keep up with. You have to commit to making it work however you decide to do it. No empty threats...they need to see the follow through. My problem with seperate bed times is that they all want to fight about what is fair, and you have to go thru the argument not once, but possibly three times when you say it is bedtime. The older one wants a later bed time, but has to get up earlier for school. The youngest one does get to take a nap and doesn't have school. The other thing is one going in and waking the other up. You might start with laying down with them so they get it that bedtime means bedtime you can put a chair beside the bed and sit until they fall asleep...slowly move the chair to the door way, and so forth. You might have to supervise till they fall asleep but once they get used to it...it usually happens a little faster because they realize you are not walking away. You can send them to bed at the same time, but different areas of the house as well put the oldest on the couch, middle in his/her bed, and the youngest in your bed till they fall asleep. Once sleepiness has set in (been asleep for about half an hour) you can then move them to where they need to go. Another thing I have done is however late they get to bed is (such as two hours) is how much earlier their bed time is (meaning they go to bed two hours earlier the next day) They get tired of loosing their play time. If all that fails all children are scared of the dark and being alone...esspecially if they are used to sleeping with others...use it to your advantage and tell them they have left you with no choice, but there are now consequences of sleeping by themselves in such and such room in the dark if they do not get to bed and get to sleep. I would start with the eight year old...he can handle it better than the youngest...but if the younger ones see that the older one is scared than they are not going to test you so much. The darkest room in my house is the bathroom (I've used the hall as well as a nice cold kitchen floor)...if I catch one talking I tell them to grab their pillow and blanket and head to the ?...at first they thought I was joking...but even my twelve year old cries like there is no tomorrow after ten to fifteen minutes (which can seem like an eternity to a child) open the door and ask them where they would prefer to sleep (usually it is always in their bed)...set the rules that you are comfortable with fine go to bed and get to sleep, and no talking or you are in the ? for the rest of the night be prepared to keep them where you put them till they at least fall asleep should they be disruptive again (and should also be a place you can supervise). Once they have fallen asleep you can always wake them and send them to their bed. Well these are just some suggestions...hope you can find one to help...good luck.
Our house is not small, but we have outgrown it...just not enough storage. We have four bedrooms, one of which has turned into the catch all for filing cabinet, computer, movies, christmas stuff. I have four children three boys and one girl. We have a bunk trendle bed for them...so there is the bunk bed then there is the trendle bed underneith that is pulled out. Then there is me and my husband, so I know the situation. What excuses do your children have? Are they scared? Are they playing...thirsty...bathroom.... I myself go through and get rid of all the excuses first, and set the rules second. Once the excuses are out of the way. Start bed time earlier if you have to. First the water, then bathroom time, then we spray the room with some glade (for the monsters to stay away of course), hugs and kisses... then tuck them into bed. I send them to bed an hour or two before me so that I know they are asleep when I am ready for bed. In doing this I set the routine and it is something that I can keep up with. You have to commit to making it work however you decide to do it. No empty threats...they need to see the follow through. My problem with seperate bed times is that they all want to fight about what is fair, and you have to go thru the argument not once, but possibly three times when you say it is bedtime. The older one wants a later bed time, but has to get up earlier for school. The youngest one does get to take a nap and doesn't have school. The other thing is one going in and waking the other up. You might start with laying down with them so they get it that bedtime means bedtime you can put a chair beside the bed and sit until they fall asleep...slowly move the chair to the door way, and so forth. You might have to supervise till they fall asleep but once they get used to it...it usually happens a little faster because they realize you are not walking away. You can send them to bed at the same time, but different areas of the house as well put the oldest on the couch, middle in his/her bed, and the youngest in your bed till they fall asleep. Once sleepiness has set in (been asleep for about half an hour) you can then move them to where they need to go. Another thing I have done is however late they get to bed is (such as two hours) is how much earlier their bed time is (meaning they go to bed two hours earlier the next day) They get tired of loosing their play time. If all that fails all children are scared of the dark and being alone...esspecially if they are used to sleeping with others...use it to your advantage and tell them they have left you with no choice, but there are now consequences of sleeping by themselves in such and such room in the dark if they do not get to bed and get to sleep. I would start with the eight year old...he can handle it better than the youngest...but if the younger ones see that the older one is scared than they are not going to test you so much. The darkest room in my house is the bathroom (I've used the hall as well as a nice cold kitchen floor)...if I catch one talking I tell them to grab their pillow and blanket and head to the ?...at first they thought I was joking...but even my twelve year old cries like there is no tomorrow after ten to fifteen minutes (which can seem like an eternity to a child) open the door and ask them where they would prefer to sleep (usually it is always in their bed)...set the rules that you are comfortable with fine go to bed and get to sleep, and no talking or you are in the ? for the rest of the night be prepared to keep them where you put them till they at least fall asleep should they be disruptive again (and should also be a place you can supervise). Once they have fallen asleep you can always wake them and send them to their bed. Well these are just some suggestions...hope you can find one to help...good luck.
I want my bedroom to look more mature and less little kid. What r some things i can do on a small budget??
bubblescol
I am 14 years old and my room has a single bed. It has recently been painted with the walls cream. I have a large mirrored woodrobe. The wall wear my bed is, is a brick wall and i am considering painting the bricks or rendering it. I also have a large window which looks out to a pool.
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Maybe have a nice lounge next to the window with a reading lamp (really tall ones that set on the floor). You can pick up single lounges really cheap from opshops...
A peice of art either on a hall table (again- cheap from opshop) or a framed painting on a wall.
Some single colour curtains will help to finnish your room, as will a nice clear floor.
Ultimately keep your room uncluttered.
Maybe have a nice lounge next to the window with a reading lamp (really tall ones that set on the floor). You can pick up single lounges really cheap from opshops...
A peice of art either on a hall table (again- cheap from opshop) or a framed painting on a wall.
Some single colour curtains will help to finnish your room, as will a nice clear floor.
Ultimately keep your room uncluttered.
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