How should I divide the bedroom between step children and my own?

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I have three kids (girl 11, boy 10 boy 4) and my boyfriend has three children (girl 12, girl 9 and boy 7) . My boyfriend has bought a new house in which we all plan to live however it is only four bedrooms. My boyfriend has always maintained a bedroom for his two girls to share and one for his son. Problem is how do we divide the bedrooms between the kids? My boyfriends oldest daughter (from an old girlfriend rarely comes, so is basically unpredicatable. The other two children boy and girl are from a previous marriage come every weekend and summer. My children reside with me and are rarely gone. I feel since I am present as are my children that his kids should share the extra room when they come one in the spare bed and air one on the air mattress. I feel my children should get the rooms, my daughter in one, and my boys together in one. However his ex wife who has the boy and girl is a b**** and I am sure will not allow his kids to come if this is the case. My daughter prefers not to share a room with the older daughter b/c she feels my daughter is childish and as a teen she is very moody. His younger childeren do not respect my kids things and personal belongings ( as I have witness so) so its better to put the bro and sister from marriage together and the one from the girlfriend on an air mattress. I am not paying for the home but will be contributing to the paying of it. I

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How about if during the summer, his kids split 2 bedrooms, and your 3 are in one room with one of your kids sleeping on an air mattress? How does that sound to you? What do you mean you don't like that and it is unfair to your kids. That's exactly what you are suggesting for your bf's kids.

They are not random strangers. They are your bf's children. This is their home too. Quit treating them like intruders.

I suggest that the 3 boys share a bedroom, his daughters share a room, and your daughter has her own room. And teach your children about sharing.

Since the oldest daughter doesn't come very often, then
Room 1: Boy 10, Boy 7
Room 2: Boy 4
Room 3: Girl 11, Girl 9

On the rare occasion that Girl 12 comes, she can sleep in the room with the other two girls.

EDIT: OK, I thought about it some more. I think the way you need to present it to your children is not that this is YOUR room, but rather this is your room AND BF's KID's room. You and your kid needs to lose the attitude.

Also, it is hard enough for kids to pack a set of clothing to visit their dad. Now you expect them to pack a set of clothing and all of their toys because they aren't allowed to play with your kids' toys.

How would you like it if your kids went to visit their dad and had to just sit on their hands because even though there are all of these really neat and interesting toys and things there, they aren't allowed to touch any of them. The only game your children are allowed to play with are the one hand-held electronic game that they brought with them. Oh, too bad the batteries are dying. That is exactly how you are treating bf's kids. There needs to be a wide variety of games for his kids to play when they are visiting their dad.

ideas for a 5 year old bedroom?

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Boy or girl ?
Interests ?
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